What you need to know is to simply not take this community forum too seriously. Just like how you talk to other people on some social media group — as long as you follow the rules by not spamming and scamming and all that, you're good to go.
Not taking the forum too seriously is something you can’t have many individuals do. It’s hard for users who have built their life around the forum not to take it seriously. It almost feels like there life, there second life and somewhere they can express themselves as well as find solution to solve some of their life’s problems.
The forum have seen and welcomed a lot of individuals over the years, have managed to shape a lot of them too as well as outcasts those that were found wanting of its rules. Even at that, you’re sure to have some more people pouring in everyday and always about looking out for means to blend in the forum.
Learning becomes the first thing you owe yourself, do that and you would find a means towards bettering your experience here @OP.