It shouldn't be difficult to know whether you are the sender or the receiver. If the transaction is adding to your balance, you are the receiver and if it's deceasing your balance you are the sender.

If you are the sender and your transaction has been flagged as RBF, you can bump the fee.
If you are the receiver, you can use CPFP.

If the size of your unconfirmed transaction is less than 500 bytes, its fee rate is at least 10 sat/byte and it doesn't have any unconfirmed parent, you can submit your transaction to ViaBTC free accelerator. If you do so, your transaction will be included in the next block mined by them. They have around 10% of the total hash rate and it's estimated that they mine 1 block in every 100 minutes.


Can you share the transaction IDs? (Note that with doing so, you may harm your privacy. So, don't do that, if you worry about your privacy)