I don't know if it's only in this part of the world but from what I have seen, it's becoming very difficult to find someone who had a great bond with his father while growing up.
I understand that the father is the breadwinner of the home and that this demands that he work very hard to provide for the financial needs of the family. I also know that because of the nature of most work our fathers do, it doesn't give them that much chance to become available for the emotional, psychological, and the rendering of certain discipline to their children, but I think this shouldn't be enough reason why they will not bond with their kids once in a while.
I grew up in a house where my dad was always busy with work to the point where we only see him three times a year and because he feels he has been sending money across for upkeep, he doesn't seem bothered that the kids have missed the role of a father in there lives.
I also know so many youths that we grew up together that had similar and some, worse off experiences growing up with their parents, and now that we've grown and some of us have started a family of our own, some have started repeating this circle in their homes.
How do we balance the part of providing finance for the home and the responsibility of being there for our children as a father?
Abi if we de provide for the financial need of our homes, e mean to say we don fulfill our role as fathers?
Parenting as a whole is a duty that everyone needs to fulfill. The right fulfillment of this duty depends on the way we manage the affairs of the home generally. The mother is naturally close to her children and it's much more easier to bond with her than the father. The fathers on their own end have a whole lot of duties to fulfill but a good father even regardless of these duties would make out time for his family.
There's no harm in a father being available to play some necessary roles in the physical child upbringing. There should be avoidance of situations where a child would grow up with questions pertaining to his father's availability in his life. The availability of both parents is really essential in a child's upbringing. It goes beyond financial providence and all. The same care a mother gives to her child, if the father is able to place half of it on the child, it'll do the child an extra good in his growth and well being.