Also scaling is another issue, Bitcoin fees are 1000x Monero fees.
Because Bitcoin is used 1000x more often than Monero. If Monero would reach the limits of its capacity, it would have high fees too. And since Monero is not using any different blockchain architecture that would make it more efficient than Bitcoin with block space, you can't say that it's more scalable just because the devs chose to have higher block size cap. Raising the size cap is trivial, dealing with the consequences is not.
I support what you said. I believe some crypto enthusiasts don't understand this fact about crypto usage and I can remember when Ethereum was yet to reach its maximum usage it was among one of the fair TX fee cryptocurrencies before things changed after it reached its capacity limit.
The same thing will happen to Monero and all the altcoins that claim to be scalable.