Almost earlier this year till now I just they reason why most marriage they break (divorce) I don they see plenty husband and wife quarrel almost every single day in deferent locations.
This topic dey very important considering say majority of us here are either married or close to that age of marriage.so we gat reason this matter because many things depend on family, even the hustle self na got the family. This marriage wahala too na another major trend now o.
I con dey reason this thing for long now say waiting dey really bring about husband and wife wahala for family.
1. Money
2. Alcohol
3. Impotency
Money: you see this money na one of the thing way dey cause problems inside marriage because if money no dey na so so wahala for the marriage, wife go dey insult the man for house and all of us know say money dey play major role for marriage.
Alcohol: This na another big wahala way dey capable of breaking marriage, for example oga way don close from work instead of aga to go home oga go follow friends go bearpallor go drink to stupor now the guy man don high as in dey go house na to abuse madam and every other person way dey house this go make marriage secater.
Impotency: This one na the oga of them all this one feet make madam go make love with gate man because the husband man hood no they stand or in no feet perform work well.
This can cause marriage wahala.
The points you raised here are valid but the cause pass this one. Ask yourself, were our parents so rich? Were they not drinking alcohol? How come the divorce rate was minimal then? What might change. We will see the real problem and a possible solution by the time we seek the answer to these questions.
I think it is the erosion of our value system that is one of the cause of this high divorce rate. We have sacrificed our culture, or norms and other things we treasured as a people for other things that are not part of our culture. For instance, the concept of gender equality is not our thing because in our culture, a wife is supposed to be under the man and completely submissive to him. By divine design, the moment a woman stop being submissive, she becomes a rabel and that becomes the source of problems. This rebellious attitude is the reason some men find comfort in the arms of other girls and women in the hands of other men.
Secondly, women have become increasingly insatiable and have developed unrealistic expectations thereby placing huge burden on the men.
Finally, a lot of married people were never ready for marriage, they probably did it because age was not on their side or their friends are doing it or pressure from family. This might not make sense to many but that is the truth, a lot of people got married when they were not ready.
In conclusion, if we can imbibe total value reorientation, drawing reference to where we are coming from as a people, I think we might begin to adjust and hopefully things might begin to get better for couples.