You won’t have a more preferred one than the other as people have different thoughts and preferences. It primarily has to do with the couple getting married. They would plan and decide on what would best suit them both.
There are cases where the breadwinner makes enough money to comfortably pay off expenses and bills, save some and also put in a decent amount towards retirement. And despite that, the other spouse still works.
It all has to do with the preference of the couple and what they think would work best for their marriage.