Expectation from people could be the driving force that keeps us going or the reason why some of us gets depressed because of our inability to meeting those expectations.
Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.
How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm unable to meet up with it.?
It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.
The first thing you have to do is communicate with yourself, which is very necessary, something that is not the same as expectations, not because Allah wants to weaken you, but Allah wants you to be stronger. Maybe this is the first
For me, it's a way to control expectations so you don't get depressed.
1. Make expectations based on reality
2. Must be willing to compromise
3. Reduce your level of expectations
4. Discuss the expectations you have with other people
Conclusion: In life we cannot control all the variables of life, what we can control is how we respond to them.