Expectation from people could be the driving force that keeps us going or the reason why some of us gets depressed because of our inability to meeting those expectations.
Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.
How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm unable to meet up with it.?
It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.
As children, of course we also don't want to disappoint our own parents and other family members. We always try to give the best, which we can do, so that we become a child that both parents can hope for and be proud of. However, along the way, it is certain that there will always be obstacles and difficulties that we have to face, which could make us fail to realize what they hope for us. So they feel disappointed with us and think that we are a child whose parents and family cannot hope for. Their inability to accept and appreciate the results of a process that we have carried out, this causes pressure after pressure that they continue to put on us, which makes us a little depressed.
And that doesn't mean that I want to teach you to disobey your parents, but after all, we as ordinary humans are only capable of planning and trying, while what determines it is fate itself. and we are not gods who can grant every wish of their servants, we are just ordinary humans who can make mistakes and fail. And they, both families and parents, must be aware of this. So we have to give our parents an understanding of the efforts we are making. And if you have to say that you can't be the person they want and hope for, then say so. because after all, we personally also have goals and hopes that we can achieve and realize, we want to become someone who is successful in a field that we really like without having to have any element of compulsion from family or parents.