Expectation from people could be the driving force that keeps us going or the reason why some of us gets depressed because of our inability to meeting those expectations.
Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.
How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm unable to meet up with it.?
It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.
It seems like a paradox to me, the word "distinction" conjures up definitions of excellence and truly standing out from the crowd - how can everyone, or even a large portion, be standing out from the crowd? They would just become the average in that context. It should be expected that in general most will get average grades, because you don't need to learn beyond the basics or even show that you can apply them, to be worthy of a reasonable university grade. Any other method of looking at it would suggest that uni grades are manipulated or rigged in a way that makes them less worthwhile as qualifications. It's probably related to the large cost that it now takes to attend university in many countries, so people hope they are buying their way towards the top grades and have built up a false picture in that regard.