Expectation from people could be the driving force that keeps us going or the reason why some of us gets depressed because of our inability to meeting those expectations.
Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.
How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm unable to meet up with it.?
It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.
I once allowed the society's expectations from me bother me so much that I Began to displease myself just to be on their good books. Then it occurred to me that I was not helping myself.
I took up a particular course because people felt that was what was best for me
I studied so hard because failure was seen as a taboo
I graduated and people still expected me to get a job immediately and start taking care of the home, and the few days i had to struggle to earn some money, people felt i was not trying enough. Most times, this pressure drove me crazy that I began to feel like I was not up to the task.
But right now I am free and happy because
i have refused to be pressured by the society's expectations from me. Everyone out there too who is facing such pressure should refuse same too. Allowing the society control your life can be really disastrous as it will be difficult for you to handle real life's situations without validation from people. Be you always.