Expectation from people could be the driving force that keeps us going or the reason why some of us gets depressed because of our inability to meeting those expectations.
Because some children did well while growing up in there preliminary classes, people always expect you to come out of the university with destinction and when you're unable to do so, it could get you depressed because it appears most time as though you've failed big time in life and that no one will even understand you at all. I'm at a cross road where my parent and siblings believe so much in me, academically, because I did well in high school but the reality is that I wasn't my best in the university and no one wants to imagine that its a possibility.
How then do I mange the expectation of people on me such that i don't get into depression when I'm unable to meet up with it.?
It's almost like everyone knows you're going to succeed but don't even care about what you're passing through while you're striving to make them proud.
You shouldn’t allow the feeling that other people will have on you be the reason why you’re doing so much that your body can’t handle. I have seen situations like yours where children who do well in high school are expected to still be the best in their university, but in reality it is not always the case because of the competitive nature of the environment and meeting of new children from different categories which some of them are just talented and gifted. You don’t expect you as a person that is only focusing on hardwork to better yourself as the person already born with that knowledge in them, definitely they will always do better than you and you shouldn’t feel like you are not trying enough too. You know yourself better than anyone, so do what works best for you and stop thinking about what other people will feel about you with the grades they’re expecting from you. As long as you don’t fail, you’re good to go.
Depression kills and when you allow it to get into you without having to control it at it’s early stages, it becomes hard for you to do so when it has already being built inside of you. If we all want to live life on the basis of what people will always say, what people always expects from us, then we are living a life for the people and not for ourselves and before you try to adjust back, it might have become a life of regrets and “has I known”. Don’t let no one deceive you that you can be the best always, no one is perfect and everyone at some point will never be the best but will fit in any category they find themselves. Your mental health is more precious and important than all of this, so take care of it before it controls you.