we should get back to numerous full node reference client brands on the network(that dont get REKT just for not being in cores roadmap path), where there is no single(centralised) moderated monarchy of proposal politics, whereby proposals are not controlled/REKT if they are not cores master plan. and then people can decide which is best and the best option activates based on consensus(consent of the masses)..
You're not getting it, are you? The roadmaps of Bitcoin, Bitcoin Cash, Monero, Litecoin and so on are not determined by just the users, but by the developers. People decide which protocols to join according to the available options and roadmaps. You cannot force a developer implement what you have got in your head. The developer is free to write any code he/she wants and you can do nothing about it other than not running it.
That's how it's going to work, no matter how you feel about it.
But don't forget Monero theoretically have lower TPS. While Monero have 2 minute block time, Monero TX is bigger and has smaller block size than Bitcoin. Looking at
https://moneroj.net/blocksize/, current average Monero block size is only about 342KB.
If there's enough demand, Monero can deal with more onchain transactions compared to Bitcoin. The dynamic block size limit can be increased to maximum of (60 KB, 2 * median sizes for the past 100 blocks). Read more about it in here:
https://monero.stackexchange.com/a/74.