and we need to keep an eye and scrutinise and critique their work instead of brush it under the carpet pretending its decentralised to then become complacent
(rhetorical question)
Who's "we"? You and I, who disagree on a fundamental level on what's Bitcoin? Or you and whoever agrees with you? Or the majority of the people in Bitcoin?
If you're not a coder or a contributor, then, no offense, but STFU. This is not a communist nor a democratic system. It's a zero-trust system. If you don't like coding, contributing or discussing in mailing lists, then you hold no influence in the space. You can "critique" their work all you like, but they're not working for you. They're working on whatever they find right, and ignore the noise.
Accept the facts, and move on with your life.