I still don't get why people get their transactions literally stuck on the MEMPOOL. Could it be that the are trying to pay very little fees or they are just trying to keep the transaction pending for a longer period of time. Firstly let me start by saying as a newbie if you don't understand how bitcoin transactions , fees and confirmations work don't try reducing your fees. Most wallets would defaultly select medium or fastest fees before you attempt to adjust and for a while now the MEMPOOL has been nice when it comes to fee rate so you literally won't be charged over $2 - $3.

Personally I think it's ok for a newbie to send that much fees than for you to reduce the fee without properly calculating based on the fact that you don't understand how to manage fees and likely end up doing either an RBF or CPFP which would incur even more fees.