1. she is YOUR daughter
2. if she has never received a christmas card, birthday card or taught to get her parent a mother/fathers day card... guess what, thats YOUR fault

kids are not dependant, its the parent that gives them cards and teaches them to give others cards. so the onus was on you to give her birthday and christmas cards

for her to have never received a birthday or christmas card says more about you personally, not culture in general... in short.. give her a birthday card and christmas card on those special days