I often recommend memorizing but only if you are 100% sure that you'll remember and do follow steps of very frequent repetition.
I don't know why you recommend memorizing seed phrases, but that should never be an option in my honest opinion, you can never be 100% sure that you will remember it, nor in the correct order, you also do not control if you'll fall ill or have a head injury or anything of that sort. Seed phrase should be backed up on paper or on steel plates, like you also said, but memorizing it should not be part of your recommendation.