yes that's right, I myself now only gamble when I have free time, and even then it's not certain because every time I have free time it's not always filled with gambling, sometimes I do other things like watching movies or playing online games with my friends. I agree with what you said, winning in gambling is just a bonus that can be obtained but it is not advisable to pursue the victory because when we have the thought of pursuing victory, the risk and bad impacts will occur. Unlike when we gamble responsibly.
Loss is an absolute thing that definitely happens in gambling and we can't avoid it, maybe by minimizing it it can but it also depends on us ourselves who do it like what, if we ourselves have limits such as in using time and money to gamble then there will be no big losses.
That is good because at least you know when you can gamble and doing other activities to distract the will of playing gambling. You do a good thing by doing other activities because that is the thing that we must do so we don't have dependency by playing gambling. If we can separate what we need to do daily and not think that gambling is the main activities, we will not think about gambling too often. We can back to gambling when we have spare time and really want to playing gambling especially when our friends ask us to join with them to playing gambling. We know how to treat gambling well so we will not gets the problem from gambling instead just have fun. Yes, you are right that loss is an absolute thing in gambling but we can minimizing the loss by always limits our money that we use to gambling.