I just would like to be able to pay for stuff, without this constant paranoid feel of not knowing if you are paying with "tainted coins", which is a thing no matter how much some want to deny this, because once again, if you or someone else deposits coins in a service using these "automatic audit" analysis tools, you can end up in trouble even tho you did nothing wrong, and good luck with that.
FWIW, some merchant which respect privacy is less likely to check whether deposited coin is "tainted" or using payment gateway which automatically check deposited coin.
Just follow one of the following:
1. Buy from KYC exchanges and be absolutely transparent with it.
2. Buy from non-KYC, do some coinjoins and some wallet hops to confuse chain-analysis platforms.
For this approach, i wonder whether some chain analysis service these days simply mark all involved coin/TX as malicious or risky.