The book should contain all 2048 words from the BIP39 list.
That's easy. Example: "abandon":
I don't think it's worth all that effort. Furthermore, even if the book contains almost all the words that make up your seedphrase, you'll still be missing 4 to 6 words. You'll need to find another way to make up for this gap.
It's a cumbersome task to write down and find back.
I believe it should only contain the 12 that you 're using in your seed phrase.
I wouldn't know if any of the books in my posession have the word "abandon" written in it. It's going to take quite a while to find those 12 words, without any guarantee of success. An eBook would make it easy, but you shouldn't just enter your seed words in the Search field on an online system either.