Not when you say something people group, they don't like it, happened with me IRL, my father, is a people pleaser (at least shows when he is with others), behind their backs he insults them, even the relatives he doesn't leave, he has connections in police stations (multiple), he gets security from there to get control of situations, well told me once too, if you get in trouble then tell them my name, side note: Breaking law, or something... (I don't know if I ever broke any law, I actually never did, I didn't even had to read the law, Don't know why he kept saying that), when you're raised, and conditioned by an appeasing others father, and don't haven't expored mych on your own then some hesitation will be there (Maybe I am using him as an execuse here...), this is even more, when he continuously praise others, and you start to think this is how this world works (At least that's how I saw it, school time respecting teachers, I'd say no matter in whichever profession you are you'll find some retards, who'll try to use you for their ends).

You can say I was rewarded for not offending, and was stepped back from offending, still working on that (I can offend, but then continously wasting the energy on the person who'll keep bringing it up is what pisses me off, it's either I offend and make an enemy, who'll try to get in my way, would you want enemies and their headache, you've already seen that with someone I replied to on this thread, my trustlist speaks volume, or focus on work, and music?)
I understand what you're trying to say, thanks!