After some contemplation, reading, and a little shitposting I have come to the conclusion that the op_return saga is lose/lose and mostly meaningless. Probably.
SO many competing things are true.
I typed a LOT of stuff... and then deleted it.

Here is the thumbnail...
Core Devs
seem to be run by assholes.
Core Devs are not all bad. It's an impossible job to please everyone.
Jameson Lopp is acting like a super duper asshole ("My investments in various companies are a 'rounding error' to my bitcoin holdings (lol lol))
Lopp has contributed.
Luke Dashjr is crazy and sees everything is extreme black and white. Also smart.
Luke has contributed.
Luke is the ONLY ONE contributing and guiding Knots.
His acolytes (like Bitcoinmechanic) are likely right about some things and wrong about others.
Few real bitcoinners want spam on the blockchain.
Many devs for BTC CORE think PR this AVOIDS the worst parts of spam.
BITCOIN does not care.
BITCOIN is antifragile.
If BITCOIN cannot survive this then it was doomed from day 1.
There.
I will have changed my mind and will type ENTIRELY different things tomorrow.
Maybe.