I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.
Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?
Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?
I think you are a responsible person. My kids all died I am 68 my wife is 69 so kids are not happening.
Being with my wife since our 1986 marriage has had its share of good and bad.
We wanted kids
We were expecting kids 3 times
They all died in miscarriages.
I have zero issue with you not wanting children.
Anyone that thinks you are immature or not ready does not know that for sure.
But your country if it is Arab and muslim wants kids to be born.
You will likely need to leave it as if you decide to stick to your guns and do not make kids people will think less of you.
Good luck in your decision whatever it is.
May Allah allow you to do what it is you have to do.