If yes, I’d like to hear your story. How did you justify it to yourself at the time?
As you wrote, "Man up!". You made a mess, now bear the consequences and solve the issue. Crying never helps, blaming others (even addiction) is foolish/childish... It's easier to point fingers at others, but it can be hard to take responsibility for your actions.
Those who wish will find a way, those who don't will find an excuse. Like in gambling, we need to pick a side and stand on it... It shows character and who we are.