I am also worried about this because I have read here several times that we shouldn't discuss our seed phrase or private key with anyone, while some people opposed it, and I also come to think of it because as a Bitcoin holder, what is the essence of leaving your wealth behind if your loved ones can't access it, especially when they know you are investing in Bitcoin? That doesn't make sense, in my opinion.
I think it depends. You don't need to listen or imitate anyone because everyone has a different life. Everyone is different, not everyone is lucky enough to have trustworthy loved ones by their side, or not everyone is a person who lives for everyone, many people are very selfish and only care about themselves.
So, depending on the situation, if you have loved ones you trust and you work hard for all of them and not just for yourself, then you can share and leave bitcoins to them. But if you don't have trustworthy relatives, they won't treat you well. You have the right not to share those things with them.
And again not everyone is planning for something bad to happen to them so that shouldn't also be the base for letting people around you know about your crypto holding, we know death is inevitable so we just have to deal with it, if you are comfortable with sharing your seed phrase to any person you hold dear then that's something you deal with and also if you are not comfortable or don't anyone then you deal with your shit yourself.