I will like people to learn from this because many people gamble in secret for what ever reason and the have companions who knows nothing about this and when exposed can cause the relationship to split or have cracks.
If you gamble it is of your interest and that of your spouse, you both need to share same orientation about gambling or given a chance to understand and respect the other person gambling choice and if they won’t then either they go or you reconsider your choice. Why should an adult keep their gambling choice away from their lover that’s deceit to me. Gambling is not a dirty secret.
If I'm an active gambler, I'd like to find a partner who can be one of the motivators to get me out of that hole.
I don't want to find a partner who shares my gambling habit.
If that happens, then there is nothing to classify me as when I have become a heavily addicted gambler. In other ways, looking for a partner with the same orientation is what I need to do in order to be comfortable and peaceful as a husband and wife.
Luckily for me, she knows that I have been gambling for entertainment purposes and this is one of my successes in communicating as her husband.