I will like to pass a serious message from the ugly incidence I had witnessed. I have this friends that were couple and have been couple for a long time this guys always share even thing together especially same orientation about life, I was open to them that I do gamble they don’t like it at all but I made them understand that I am an adult and that’s my life, recently the lady found that the guy do gamble and he owned up that he has been doing it for a while too. They are broken up now on the grounds of mistrust.
The wife seem to be a type that gets temper tantrums if she can't get things done her own way, but what the husband got himself into isn't right either.
Maybe the wife has started having some signs of financial threat, so she doesn't want to take chances and bear the risk of allowing him to spend so much ( of course spending a little wouldn't bring such a disagreement). The father stays the head of the home, so if he folds, everyone else will.
Another thing is that the wife may just have that unusual disgust for people that indulge in gambling, placing them below her ratings as irresponsible parents.
If you gamble it is of your interest and that of your spouse, you both need to share same orientation about gambling or given a chance to understand and respect the other person gambling choice and if they won’t then either they go or you reconsider your choice.
it's very important that they should have had some mutual agreements over that already before getting settled. What does two grown ups discuss during courtship?