I will like to pass a serious message from the ugly incidence I had witnessed. I have this friends that were couple and have been couple for a long time this guys always share even thing together especially same orientation about life, I was open to them that I do gamble they don’t like it at all but I made them understand that I am an adult and that’s my life, recently the lady found that the guy do gamble and he owned up that he has been doing it for a while too. They are broken up now on the grounds of mistrust.
I will like people to learn from this because many people gamble in secret for what ever reason and the have companions who knows nothing about this and when exposed can cause the relationship to split or have cracks.
If you gamble it is of your interest and that of your spouse, you both need to share same orientation about gambling or given a chance to understand and respect the other person gambling choice and if they won’t then either they go or you reconsider your choice. Why should an adult keep their gambling choice away from their lover that’s deceit to me. Gambling is not a dirty secret.
People constantly do things they are ashamed of, and you don't need to tell all of those to your spouse if you don't want to. But when it comes to money, it's usually significant amount of money people are ashamed of losing. Because i don't think that couple would break over one just lottery ticket that didn't win. It's usually a pattern that's been happening a while to be a shameful secret.
Because when it comes to money, couples living under a same roof often have shared plans, that are planned around that money. So when half of it suddenly got missing, there's a problem. And it's not the gambling what's the problem, but the fact that other one is lying and deceiving. Then it becomes issue of trust that would be hard to earn back.
It's easier to understand if you think that your partner is cheating you. After that, not only it's hard to trust your partner, it can affect so much that person doesn't trust their next partners in life either. It's a matter of trust and hiding the fact how you lose money is just one way to lose that trust.