I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.
Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?
Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?
As you said that you like to get married without having children, i know that it is a personal decision due to what you might have been passing through in a relationship or what you have been seeing within your environment with dose that is married, I'm not here to convince you to go back from your personal decision about marriage but i want to tell you more about having children in the family, because having children is the beauty of any marriage, and i know that getting married, there is many things that is involved which means you really need to meet the right partner because marriage is all about life journey that the both partners will stick together and think of the process where you have all the money and no children that can bear your name or family name when you are no more, that means your chapter have closed, because you were not able to keep your family name going, and you should understand that once you have married and your people waited for years and there is know cry of a baby in your house, your people will start calling you barren and with this name that people will calling you, you can't afford to with stand the pressure coming from wife family and that of your own family, so i want to you to understand children is a bending agent to any family because children always bring happiness and everlasting of a marriage.
I can understand your position which is actually the position of the majority. I also respect your choice to have children as you consider it a source of happiness in married life with the right partner.
But let me discuss the idea from another angle by asking few questions: There are many infertile people who cannot have children for biological reasons; does this mean their marriage will not be happy or that they are not happy people just because of this? Personally, i don't think so.
There are people who get married in worst condition of war, as is currently happening in Gaza and Ukraine; do you see it fair to have children in armed conflict conditions such as wars?
Answering these questions can help you see the comcept as something that should be a responsible decision made rationally and not just an emotional impulse.