so aside from gambling responsibly, will you agree that we should disclose our gambling habits or is it not the business of our spouses? does gambling really have the capacity to break up a marriage or a family?
Depending on the situation but as partners, there should be no more secrets anymore. That's the reason why you're already tied up to your partner and you shouldn't hide any secrets longer. The reason for most divorce and break ups are not really affairs but about financial matters. And gambling is one of the reason why someone in the relationship is having a break down of his finances because of potential gambling addiction.
There should be no secrets between couples but there could be time for individual pursuits or hobbies and this could include gambling. This doesn't mean that you should keep it a secret. At the very least, you should use your own money when gambling and do not touch the money for your family since it is for your own individual hobby.
I agree, we shouldn't touch our couple's fund but if we've got some spare money. Then that's all what we're going to use. Some couples are supportive to each others' hobby and that's why even if they spend some quite large amount of money, it's fine. But don't abuse it because it could lead to addiction and misunderstanding for both partners. So, sometimes it's good to just talk about it and let both of you see your points whether you agree to it or not. As long as there's an agreement and understanding, it's going to make the relationship last even gambling is there.