So I moved back to my rural hometown after long years of building a career in the capital city, met up some friends I haven't seen for ages. Hanged out, got to my story and their first question was where did I buy my house. I told them I didn't, I'm in a rental property like I've always been. It was strange at first but then I realized I was their idol, the "rich guy who made it". Then got on to other topics. "So what car do you have?" I told em, I dont have a car. "Fuck it bro, at least did you travel the world?" - Not yet. With 3 questions and 3 answers, I made their whole world view collapse. "Are you even wealthy bro?" Yessiriam. I consider myself wealthy. What makes a man wealthy? Having options. If I'd like, I could buy the house, buy the car or travel the world. I didn't because it's not financially the right decision, at least it wasn't at that moment.
There was a question a few days ago here, someone coined what could be the biggest problem with economies. This is one of them, for sure. People can't differentiate assets and liabilities. They think they own the house, they claim they own the car, and in the meantime they're in utter debt. People strive to take on liabilities instead of building wealth which consists of assets (favorably hard or income-generating assets). They discount their time, become corporate slaves just to keep up with the illusion of their lifestyles they ought to show to the outside world.
And I see this everywhere. The four of us in the room all came from the same school. Same age. Same opportunities. Three wheeling in heavy debt, trynna keep it up with side hustles. One with a positive balance who never needs to be a corporate slave again.
This your story hit. Many people think wealth is all about to show iff house, car or flashy lifestyle. People do chase so many fancy life, and post images just to look like they have arrived, but they don't have get peace of mind. Meanwhile, please plan well, invest well, and avoid unnecessary pressure you will enjoy freedom later without stress. True wealth is not all about showing off, as they say slow and steady win the race, run the race small, small you will definitely win.