Of course, each of us is responsible for our own level of aggressiveness, and we should not let pressure from online or groups affect our choices in that there is nothing wrong with being aggressive as long as we do not end up overdoing it.  If we overdo it, then we have to suffer the consequences, and it might be 10 years down the road that we realize that we cannot turn back the clock an hopefully we did what we were able to do without overdoing it and taking ourselves out of the game due to our own overly aggressive screw up(s).