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My condolences.
Having lost my father in July, I very much understand what you are going through. As long as we keep our loved ones in our memories and hearts, they will never be truly gone.
July was just a few months ago. I also add my condolences to you Goldkingcoiner may you also find comford and strength during this difficult time.
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Even with everything you're dealing with, your generosity stands out and you still manage to think of others and look after family. It’s inspiring.
Even without Bitcoin I would have done the same. Although, i'm not born rich my mother raised me and my sister on her own. Divorced my father for his alcohol abuse. Never saw him again, apparently he spend most of his time in England.
My mother survived throat cancer when we where little. Surgery had 50/50 survival rate. Night before hopitalization me and my sister whent to here bedroom sleeping together, it was an emotional night i never forgot. She fought for her own life to take care of uss and survived. After that i promised to make her proud. Finished school, no criminal record giving a hand when needed.
Became rich with Bitcoin. While retired i still maintain same lifestyle when I was a salaried employee. No flamboyant excessive nonsence. It comfords me to be financial independent, debt free, no need to be the richest, paying bills on time living a good life. Using the wealth to support my (late) mother and sister with her daughter. Buying what they need like a new t.v, washingmachine, refrigerator, 2e hand car for my sister, vacations for those precious photo's to keep as memories. Even purchased a €4000 sleeping matrass for my (late) mother.
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Not that I ever did that, but I think that when you recover a wallet by a BIP-39 seed you need no passphrase, at least with some wallet software. Maybe it's worth checking if this is the case.
Using a Trezor which will need both the seed and passphrase to gain access the hidden wallet.