What are ya'll using the .conf with just connect= or the .conf with addnode= ?
I have 2 wallets that are using each and after deleting everything, including your wallet.dat(after you backed up), I am on sync with both .conf files.
I left the wallet to update overnight with the connect=. Checked it this morning, before I loaded my wallet and I was out of sync according to the blockchain explorer. I reloaded my wallet.dat and changed the config to addnode, but it made no difference. I'm now 25 blocks behind, but no sync errors on the wallet. It is updating though.
Trying deleting one more time, last night is when the trouble was starting.