How do you eliminate this institutionalized violence?
By fostering a culture of strict anti-violence / pro-reason. I'm not even sure if it's possible to transition from the hyper-violent culture we have today to some anti-violent culture without several generations or some horrible system-shock such as a nuclear war.
Why not get together with some of your Anarcho-communist friends and form a town, association, group , or whatever you want to call it as a test case example to show how effectively your ideas work in reality?
Lack of resources generally and a desire to not sever all my personal relationships. I have a girlfriend, a family, parents, all these people wouldn't just end theirs careers and lives to come live in some experimental commune with me. Get real, I don't have such enormous freedom as you think. No one does.