Yes, RelayNodeClient.jar is nice.
Add node option can be checked with=>
host public.us-east.relay.mattcorallo.com
which gives IP=>
public.us-east.relay.mattcorallo.com has address 162.243.69.180
then,
netstat -lant | grep 162.243.69.180
Should give established connection between local IP and 162.243.69.180
To check actual traffic between local node and 162.243.69.180 tcpdump can be used.
tcpdump -neivv -i MyNetworkInterface host 162.243.69.180
Change MyNetworkInterface respectively with your network interface.
0 packet captured means something is wrong, else should be fine.
Cheers,