Steps for adoption: Think dark markets.  Think getting blessing from core bitcoin developers as providing valuable technology, even if not appropriate for bitcoin itself.  Think talking to the coinbase guys.  Email ben horowitz.

BUT all this is dependent on having best in class tech.  And it has to be better and more marketable than darkcoin.  Once we are up and running, anoncoin needs to extremely credibly be able to say all of the following:

1) We have solved the anonymity problem.  Further work in this area (by other coins, etc) is a waste, because there are no shortcomings to our solution

2) Our solution (if not the math itself) is easy to understand, and is an elegant technology like bitcoin, not a hack-y technology like all the other coins with mixers and masternodes and minimum coin requirements and so forth (looking at you darkcoin, for all I admire you)

3) We can scale just as well as bitcoin for the following A, B, C reasons related to dealing with keeping the blockchain a reasonable size and being able to verify transactions with reasonable computation requirements