:edited to make sense:
I tried setting up a wallet on a different rig and it was doing the same thing.
Originally I tried a clean install and after 5 days figured something was wrong.
To try something else I then downloaded a recent blockchain and the bootstrap and left it chugging for 5 days and just gave up on the thing, I don't get it, my main wallet on my other pc had not been opened for 8 weeks and caught up in a few hours, but downloading a very recent blockchain was taking days, even with the bootstrap and felt like I was getting no where.
I figured it was just catching up but I don't get why it was trying to take huge a huge amount of time. I just assumed it was something I was doing wrong lol