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Quote from: Broly46 on November 12, 2020, 07:26:41 AM

I’m paying my <censored> monthly allowance of 2000 (out of my own hard earned wallet cash ofc) without failed for more than 9 years. I think that’s enough for everyday necessity and even some luxury items to treat themselves to their heart content.

And one fine day my <censored> reach me a complaint about having money problem and hinting me to increase the monthly allowance for <censored gender> itself. I’m unwillingly to provide more help as I find myself unconditionally advocating the self entitled mentality on my own <censored> and it would begin to nailed me an arm and a leg, if I give into that sort of entitlement.

I begin to realise there is really a problem that can’t be fixed, won’t have an answer to that problem, and it’s no right or wrong way to do it.

That’s just one fine instance, I believe there is much more on the wild, a whole lot of mission impossible that’s without my knowing.

It's pretty hard to make any judgement without knowing all the facts. Likely you aren't interested in sharing anymore than you already have and you're just here to vent.
You're not alone. Many people have to support others in this world and sometimes not only with money but with their time, effort and emotions. It can be quite difficult at times not to do so grudgingly and while occasionally more money may be required (as I suspect due to inflationary pressure after 9 years) sometimes more money isn't the answer. In cases where lawyers get involved, the costs can skyrocket and the main beneficiary in that case is generally the lawyer. It's not always easy to sleep in the beds we've made for ourselves and none of us can accurately predict the future.

Let’s make it clear, I pay to my parent monthly allowance, I don’t want mention gender *you know why I don’t want unwanted attention*, I have absolutely doing it unconditionally, just paying it out of my spare cash because I want them to have a meal everyday to survive, I’m doing it just like any grown up kids trying to protect their ageing parent, I rephrase, no commitment in doing it, not even a legally bind responsibility obligation, just out of unconditionally want my parent to spend on some food with that money and forget the hardship, but I find it’s a mistake to be feeding them with cash and expect they will appreciate no matter how much I give them, but no they demand more not less, I’m going to say I didn’t expect that, and I can’t find a way to reject them or blame them, this is kinda big dilemma that has no right or wrong way to do it. I think it’s very clear, if anyone else on my shoe they surely know it, btw I’m just making an instance.

For me it is not a problem, so try to change your perspective, for me parents are luck, the more I spoil them the happier I am with my life.
If you feel it is hard to bear it yourself then try talking to your other siblings to bear it together but if you are just alone then talk to your parents about your situation without covering anything up, I'm sure he will understand.
So it's not an unsolvable problem, the way to solve it is to start talking to him

You might be true that’s not impossible mission, but look what I had lurk out from the replies above, the obligatory allowance, it establish my topic where there is truly a mission impossible in this thread, please proceed to discuss.

yes I know it's mandatory allowance friends, but nothing is really compulsory for someone to live except eating, drinking and breathing, and the cost for that can't be 2000 as you mentioned,
if it's a debt then try selling anything to pay it off and live in peace (I've been in the same situation)
but before that you have to talk to your parents about your current condition, i am sure they will understand that.

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