I want to pay a hooker without my wife knowing.
Do I read a mantra on what money should be written by a pseudoeconomist and buy a coin with same the anonymity level as bitcoin?
Or do I use the coin that's agreed upon to have the best anonymity?
How will I ever decide?

I think for you, you should definitely be a Lemming

Follow what you're told. It's the best policy, just ask Ross Ulbricht,
You're the one following the master to his node and paying him for the risk to your privacy. And you probably have spent so much time in that cult that you believe people accidentally instamine coins, but don't have the heart to fair launch. OOOPSY