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Quote from: adamstgBit on December 30, 2012, 03:58:36 AM

so, my son's uncle is 3.5 years old.
and every single time they play together, he hits my son on the head with a toy or something...
His parents give him time-outs or wtv. but it doesn't work, he literately will go hit my son again 1 min later
So he smacked my son today, and I smacked him. Kiss

this caused a bit of a fuse.... ya sure its not my kid and i shouldn't be disciplining him.... wtv... i got mad he got smacked, big deal.
its been like a year we keep explaining to him that what he's doing is "not nice" I'm fed up.
if it was my kid always hitting a smaller kid, I'd smack him!

"Parents need to bring back the belt!"

your thoughts... Cheesy

You want parenting/disciplining advice? Wrong forum lol...

I have kids of my own. I'm a firm believer of talking to them before they are disciplined so they understand what they did wrong and why it was important for them not to do what they did. Open communication (once they hit a certain age) is essential.

"Now, Billy, it is not nice to hit my son with your toy rocket shit. It makes your him very sad. You do that again and I will smack the shit out of you, OK?"

Kids are smarter than most parents think. I don't talk to them like they are babies. I talk to them as if they are intelligent adults. They may not understand everything I'm saying but children learn quick if you don't stunt their growth by saying "goo goo ga ga" to them all the time.

How is that goo goo ga ga? Instead of talking to them rationally, is it better to yell at them and give them the finger like most adults talk to each other when they are upset?

No I don't believe teaching them things you don't want them to repeat or do is going to be the solution.

GOO GOO GA GA was referring to parents who like to keep treating their kids like babies.

KIDS ARE A MIRROR IMAGE OF THE QUALITY OF PARENTING THAT THEIR PARENTS PRODUCE. If your kid is doing stupid shit all the time, well perhaps you should look at yourself and see if they are just copying you.