this is not somthing new i picked up from the other forum

Yes were negatively influenced by those people.

in fact i was lead to believe that full node centralization was natural evolution this was the creator's vision as well.

Stop with the appeal to authority bullshit.

i'll pick full node centralization....

Then you're an idiot. Bitcoin would be worth nothing if it was centralized. You'd just be left with a inefficient network.

also i want to feel as tho the devs are on the same page, they will do everything they can to allow mainchain to grow.

Redundant at best.

I wonder if there could be some incentive to empty the mempool ... does that make sense?

Not really, no. If you are too cheap to include the adequate fee, the miners shouldn't bother with your TX.