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feeling like a brainiac, added nodes from there,still didn't get connection. --> rolled around wondering why looking at settings over and over again for 15 minutes and then it hit me,my conf was named vTorrent-Hd.conf and as I renamed it to be vTorrent.conf.
Works like a charm now, sometimes my stupidity amazes me over and over

Not really your fault, it's down to the community to provide instructions for people new to the project.
There is a video that covers your issue and some instructions from the devs, but it's not easy to find. We'll have to work harder on that. The help tools are building up, but they need to be visible.