If I had to use escrow every time I used my credit card to buy something online I would cut them in half and throw them away. Credit cards would be useless for me then.
I use credit cards with fraud protection for those items.
Kind of contradicting yourself there

No contradiction at all. Bitcoin escrow is too slow when all I want to do is order a pair of Levi 501s. I log on, make the order, enter my CC info and place the order. 5 minutes involvement tops. The CC company keeps me safe because I signed a contract with them that guarantees my safety wherever I shop (plus the 20 other benefits I get like flyer miles). That's not escrow. That's a legally binding contract that I can sue over.
Setting up an involved escrow is too much work for a pair of jeans. The bitcoin escrow services I've used in the past were more expensive than the 2% merchants get charged per transaction. I used to trust JohnTheDong's escrow but I don't know if I trust any others. Searching for an escrow that I trust isn't worth the time for me. If I do find an escrow person that I use regularly they can still rip me off eventually (that's happened many times before). Its just not worth it for me, you're mileage may differ.