I am an asshole, because Gavin, after being pointed out that his neutrality in the matter is at least questionable brought up an argument of his family member passing away, and I dared to call it silly?

Well, if such a behavior falls under a definition of being an asshole, then maybe I am one - whatever.
But it still doesn't change the fact, that in my opinion there is something seriously wrong with the development of this project.
While the community expects the dev team to solve the scalability problem, the lead developer just makes an announcement that he already made the decisions along with all the other important people from the community and they decided that instead of addressing the scalability issue, while there is still time, they are only going to make it worse, and they will do it as soon as possible. And before it happens, they are also going to lobby against implementing any alternative ways of addressing this issue... hell, they are going to pretend that it isn't even possible to solve it otherwise.

Thank you though for giving me the opportunity to present the various arguments, even though by your definition I obviously belong to the ones who don't care