Quote from: Railedwalk on January 06, 2018, 05:40:34 AM

Thank you for replying. She wasn't married before. I am 27 and she is 25. I think she just got cold feet. She called me yesterday and told me that she thinks its too soon to get married and she wants to see what else is out there. She also told me she loves me but she doesn't want a relationship with me. This is way too confusing for me. You are right, I am going to just focus on myself for a while and spend some time with my friends.

But ultimately, I want to win her back. I read an article on this and I wanted to get your opinion about this. https://getyourexbackpermanently.com/win-your-ex-girlfriend-back/

Basically, it says to give her some space and give her some space for around 30 days and start rebuilding a connection with her slowly. Do you think this is something I should do?

It is good news that she called you back, she probably really does care about you deeply.

I don't know, it just seems to be that she is simply too young and wants to see what else is out there.
She probably knows that you are great for her, but people are like that, they still are afraid of missing out on something better.

I don't see why you should try to win her back, as if she really does love you and it seems like she does or at least cares about you a lot, then it is nothing to do with you, remember that. You never lost her, so you can't win her back.

No one can know if she will want to come back to you after she looks around and maybe doesn't find anyone better for her.
I wouldn't suggest that you wait for her as that can lead to you waiting for something that will never happen.

It is ok to grief over your relationship for months and you probably will. So 30 days doesn't seem like that much of time.
You should probably start dealing with the fact that it really might be over for good and accept it.
And if she comes back and you still want her back then good luck, if not, you will get over it.

Just understand the situation that you are in and accept it. It is hard, but it is only thing that you can really do that makes sense.
I can just tell you that there are billions of woman in this world and she is very likely not one of a kind, so don't project this on yourself and start slowly and healthily moving on.

That is just my opinion on this. Talk to your friends and family, I am sure they know you and her a lot better then I do.

Hang in there friend! Grin