Quote from: CODE200 on November 13, 2020, 03:43:03 PM

Quote from: DabsPoorVersion on November 12, 2020, 10:03:55 PM

Quote from: Broly46 on November 12, 2020, 09:06:05 PM

Let’s make it clear, I pay to my parent monthly allowance, I don’t want mention gender *you know why I don’t want unwanted attention*, I have absolutely doing it unconditionally, just paying it out of my spare cash because I want them to have a meal everyday to survive, I’m doing it just like any grown up kids trying to protect their ageing parent, I rephrase, no commitment in doing it, not even a legally bind responsibility obligation, just out of unconditionally want my parent to spend on some food with that money and forget the hardship, but I find it’s a mistake to be feeding them with cash and expect they will appreciate no matter how much I give them, but no they demand more not less, I’m going to say I didn’t expect that, and I can’t find a way to reject them or blame them, this is kinda big dilemma that has no right or wrong way to do it. I think it’s very clear, if anyone else on my shoe they surely know it, btw I’m just making an instance.

For me, if they demand more, then talk to them. Tell them that's only what you can give to them.

Or if you can give more and you are really willing, then why not. They are your parents, they are the one who raise you, it is your responsibility to be the one helping them. If you don't have your own family yet then at least let your parents enjoy how you treat them with your salary. It is just a money, you can always earn it, but the memories with them is something that you cannot return once they are gone.

As much as possible, give an amount or support to them without depriving yourself. If it is okay, kindly ask for the reason from doing so and if it is something tolerable, don't hesitate and give it to them. There'll be no laws binding your support towards your parent but it is your responsibility as their child. Whether it is money or anything that you give, try to just appreciate yourself from doing so because it is your way of gratitude for what have they done to you in your life. I'm not sure if my analogy is correct but I think you are trying to make or mind your life as an adult and you want to focus on the future. I'd say never forget where you came from and who were there at your lowest, more likely that's your parents, not to be insensitive to those who were abused by some bad people.

I begun to wonder if I should change the story to “we all pay our parent 2000 in monthly allowance for 9 years, then our parent...” and that will change the topic from “my problem” to “the problem faced by everybody”, however nobody gonna self confess to a situation that’s sucked like that because it sound like admitting to the defeats, and it’s kinda shameful to be weak provider and all, so everybody think I should be decent human being and do our parent a favour by feeding them to their absolutely heart content? Nope I’m not a decent human being, I’m actually the opposite, I will do the most horrible thing nobody can imagine.