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Let’s make it clear, I pay to my parent monthly allowance, I don’t want mention gender *you know why I don’t want unwanted attention*, I have absolutely doing it unconditionally
Let's start with cutting the crap here
You are not doing it unconditionally, i.e. without forcing yourself to do that, deep down inside. You actually feel obligated, otherwise you wouldn't raise this theme. But I don't blame you in the least. Just be honest to yourself, how much you really would want to pay. You don't have to find excuses and then feel guilty because you can't deceive yourself. Just accept the fact that you are not quite happy with the situation, and it is totally okay. I'm not saying that this is your case, but some parents are real bastards to their children, and they come to heavily abuse the psychological dependence of their kids on them, the dependence which they thoroughly cherish and nourish. Then you feel guilty
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I know there is no way to write a thread that will not attract attention, not gonna go offensive and well it’s an open forum I’m gonna accept to receive all type ideas from all people of different SES, expecting someone will cherry picking on the content, I would say this is kinda repetitive socially acceptable type of redundant cliches, how about not all providers are the same? Some providers are just weak that can’t even afford a 2000 allowance a month? Well psychology is kinda deceiving, they would judge people totally out of reality, because there is always not enough amount to a feeling sort of demand, people always need to feel more, more feeling, more pleasure, there can’t be a threshold to it. I’d avoid anything that involves feeling.
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This is not just about one parent or this is not just about one person, this is basically just a symbol of what you face when you make money.
If you are not super rich or wealthy, it is always hard to deal with life when you are not alone and have responsibility of other people. Think of a person who has to work and earn enough money to support their spouse and their kid, isn't that similar? And this is a lot more common as well, maybe a kid taking care of their parent is not common but a person taking care of his own family every day is very very common and it is the back bone of our world.
When we are talking about a single guy living at home, we are talking about someone who can save some money with even small amount income, when we talk about a family dad, we are talking about someone who can't live with 2x more income. Sometimes you need income of 3 people just as a single person.
If you are not super rich or wealthy, it is always hard to deal with life when you are not alone and have responsibility of other people. Think of a person who has to work and earn enough money to support their spouse and their kid, isn't that similar? And this is a lot more common as well, maybe a kid taking care of their parent is not common but a person taking care of his own family every day is very very common and it is the back bone of our world.
When we are talking about a single guy living at home, we are talking about someone who can save some money with even small amount income, when we talk about a family dad, we are talking about someone who can't live with 2x more income. Sometimes you need income of 3 people just as a single person.
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I think it’s kind of common, like all the providers are doing a mission impossible that they’re not even aware with self conscious, but the entire world has changed too dramatically where the use-to-be good old fashion of go to school, make good grade and get good paying job and retired peacefully no longer a working formula to lead a standard lifestyle, it has changed to a point self entitlement individual are beginning to change from depending to leeching to predatory parasitism draining alive it’s host providers, and may kill it in the meanwhile, if this is the usual practice today, it’s kinda horrible to be decent human being anymore.
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Give them a finger and they'll take an arm...
For me it wouldn't be a problem. If I were paying my parent's allowance and heard that it's not enough, I'd give them a choice between keeping it as it is, or sending me all the bills. This would mean that I have to accept things they buy and pay for them, or not.
I find it hard to believe that a grown up would have none of their own money and had to ask me for every penny. I'm not paying for my parents, they have their own money, but if they asked me for help, I'd probably demand access to their bank account first, to see how they're spending money. Usually the problem lies in people's spending habits, not in a total lack of money. I don't know a single person who has 0 money, but I know a lot of gamblers and so called "big spenders" who have a room full of designer clothes, but can't pay the rent.
For me it wouldn't be a problem. If I were paying my parent's allowance and heard that it's not enough, I'd give them a choice between keeping it as it is, or sending me all the bills. This would mean that I have to accept things they buy and pay for them, or not.
I find it hard to believe that a grown up would have none of their own money and had to ask me for every penny. I'm not paying for my parents, they have their own money, but if they asked me for help, I'd probably demand access to their bank account first, to see how they're spending money. Usually the problem lies in people's spending habits, not in a total lack of money. I don't know a single person who has 0 money, but I know a lot of gamblers and so called "big spenders" who have a room full of designer clothes, but can't pay the rent.
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LOL, I’d say not all people are the same, some are just big spender and it just unreasonable to tolerate, it’s easy to spot them among the crowd, big spenders are usually fighting among themselves they want to have everything within their circle so that they can finally feel contented in life, I’d said a big spending couple would likely to breakups and fighting at a factor of a magnitude higher than the average spenders, well if it’s a parent of somebody I wish them the best.
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