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Good wives/husbands do not allow a family to break up because of any addictions of one family member. Such problems need to be solved together because a gambling addict is not able to cope alone. If the family is falling apart then it is likely that there are more serious problems within the family than gambling addiction.

Exactly! I don’t get why people state that gambling addiction ruins families so often, that says a lot about the willingness of family members to help each other overcome problems. In some cases, there can be alcohol or drug abusers, or people with psychiatric disorders, but you don’t abandon them for that, IMO it’s very wrong.

I will have to disagree, I have seen some instances of people getting addicted to alcohol and I have seen their family members fight to the best of their ability to keep the family intact, but if one of the family members is so dysfunctional then sometimes there is no other choice, this is not a decision that is taken lightly and it takes years to take form, after all the partner that is not addicted also has to think on the well-being of the rest of the family especially if there are kids involved, also sometimes that is the wake up call those that are addicted need to get out of addiction as they realize they have lost everything because of it.

Of course it happens that way. I know of cases where people with very severe alcoholism and drug addiction have returned to a normal life only thanks to their family. That is why we should not underestimate the role of family in the fight against gambling addiction. Also gaming addiction is much easier to treat than alcohol or drug addiction.

Basically, something that keeps their family intact is love and also the family's patience to deal with addiction problems from one of their family members, they or families who are broken because of addiction are those who do not have patience and a high sense of love. The simple thing is that an addict has basically ruined the family name and if the family doesn't accept it then of course, the family can leave that one person even though he is a family member and cases like this are also common.

Ok, let's assume you are right, and you indeed may be right here. But what does "love" mean when you have a highly addicted husband putting the family home on the line? Love can also mean to kick your husband in the ass as if there was no tomorrow because you want him to get back on his feet. Just to get this straight here, love doesn't always have to mean hugs and kisses, and in some circumstances hugs and kisses may even cause more harm than good. Love can mean brutal measures to fight brutal problems. Take the kids and leave for a while, shock therapy to the addict. That could be much better to help the addict regain a realistic experience and perception of reality.

Definitely true. It will be harsh as it will sound when a wife shouts get up and back to work but this could be what an irresponsible husband needs to get up and realize he has responsibilities. Gambling addiction is almost not very different from having a drug addiction which could lead to a dysfunctional family. All the members suffer when a husband is not cooperative in a family.

The moment that a husband couldn't provide for his family, he really needs a hard slap or realization. Some fathers even do the worse things in life just to provide.