Quote from: Welsh on February 28, 2023, 10:22:09 AM

Many couples have separate bank accounts, but they at least tell or are open to their partner about it.

just because you know each other has their own personal bank account doesn't mean you know what's going on in that bank account. Shocked

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Having a secret bank account is another story, I haven't heard that too often.

is there really a difference though? if you don't know what they are doing in their bank account does it really matter whether you know that account exists or not? so i guess you have a protocol in place for how spouses declare all the transactions they are doing periodically, maybe emailing each other their respective bank statements?

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If you don't want to share everything with your partner you probably shouldn't get married in the first place, since you're legally accepting that you will share everything.

well i'm not sure that statement is true. just because people get married doesn't mean they shouldn't try and protect themself from adverse events that might occur in the future. that's what a pre-nuptual agreement is for.

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I'm not even sure what the motives would be to hide a bank account from your partner. What does that achieve?

well it could achieve alot of things. for example lets say you are doing some type of illegal transactions and in order to limit your spouse's liability, you don't want them to know about it. how's that ? need another example, just ask.

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I don't see any issue with that, but I do see an issue with both individuals having their own account, them sharing a joint account, and then one of those individuals having an extra secret account which they are skimming off some of their income or savings or whatever to hide from the other person.

what's the difference though? unless there is some protocol to share bank account statements from the personal accounts on a periodic basis.

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In such a case you obviously do not trust your spouse, which goes back to the initial question of why did you marry them in the first place?

i dont know.

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I have argued long and hard in defense of all things privacy, and so if you want to keep parts of your life secret from your spouse than that is absolutely your right. I guess I just don't understand why you would be in such a relationship. If I trusted someone so little, I would be keeping a much more casual relationship with them.

well i don't think anyone starts out with the goal to keep secrets it's just something that happens along the way maybe? i don't know. but little secrets can turn into big secrets but by then, you already justified the entire thing somehow. Shocked