I'm a dude. I can't afford to make decisions based on feelings. I have to make decisions based on reason.
No, that's just the sexual politics you've been brought up with.
If you were a dude hunting sabre-tooth tiger and you felt the feelings you are having now you would act on them and avoid being eaten by some large nasty creature. That's how we managed to survive and evolve.
Emotional intelligence has nothing to do with being a man or a woman. Listen and acknowledge what your instinct is telling you and add it to the mix when decision making: if it helps, this is the sort of advice survivalists, criminologists, even the military etc provide for situations when 'data' is insufficient.
We have evolved all sorts of instincts that were helpful in more primitive environments but harmful now. For example we are hungry too often and tend to over eat. I think you have sexual politics backwards. We are expected to suppress natural masculine behavior more and more in modern society. You subtly imply that I'm sexist for even saying their are masculine traits such as the tendency to act less on emotion that women do. Men and women have brains that are wired differently. The two hemispheres in males are less interconnected than with females. It's one reason why there are no women chess champions.